Everybody is someone else's weirdo

Although it seems ironical, it is a statement as true as it can get. I stole it from a friend's Google Talk status message, since it is so apt for this post.

Come to think of it, everyone of us knows at least one person who we think is weird. At the same time, each of us also knows a person who thinks we are weird. While I don't know the reason for this happening among girls, I have a theory on why this happens to guys, as in, why do some guys seem weird to girls. I analysed my own behaviour after reading a lot on the topic of men vs women, and realised this.

This would normally happen to any attractive girl, and would also happen to most girls with respect to a particular guy. More often that not, the guy seems weird to the girl primarily because the guy is trying hard to make an impression on her. Given that guys do not know much about girls anyway, and that their interaction with the girl they like is very limited, they are not sure of how the girl would react.

Coupled with the fact that he likes her, the guy is terrified of losing and is very nervous. For all these reasons, he changes his attitude, his statements, his posture and body language a number of times during the interaction, in his desperate effort to adapt to the girl's reactions. (What many guys also do is to talk to the girl in the same way as he would talk to a guy, or even worse, as if the girl were his buddy who already knows that he likes her.)

As a result, the girl gets different verbal and non-verbal messages during a single interaction, and is thoroughly confused. Of course, the guy too is all nervous and offers no help in making the girl understand him. Net outcome: the girl thinks "this guy is weird".


Moral of the story for the girls: Be happy and feel appreciated when a guy appears to be weird to you. He likes you!

Moral of the story for the guys: Be confident when you talk to girls, than coming across as a clumsy person.